My wife and I are blessed to have a healthy, precocious 2-year-old named Reid. Our life is nonstop with trying to balance full-time jobs and taking care of Reid. We fight more since we had Reid than we ever did before. It’s a constant struggle as to who is dropping him off with my mom and who is picking him up, never mind what the hell we’ll feed the kid when there’s about 15 minutes for breakfast before I need to drive to my parents and then get to work and it’s dinner time as soon as we get home.
Beyond the usual adventures in parenthood, my wife and I feel like we’ve been dealt a couple hard hands in our journey to have children.
When we were pregnant with Reid, we found out we both were carriers of the delta f508 Cystic Fibrosis gene. Like I said, we are blessed that Reid is healthy and he does not have CF.
We chose not to roll the dice with ‘spontaneous conception’ again — also known as the “old fashion way” — with there being a 1-in-4 chance of our child having CF. We went through an in vitro fertilization cycle at UConn Health Center in May 2011. We got pregnant but found out in July we had had a miscarriage. We tried again in September, only to find out we have fertility issues.
It’s pretty much like getting kicked in the groin after getting pushed off a ten-story building.
Neither IVF or miscarriages are uncommon and it’s my hope that by talking about it here, we can offer each other support.
Despite these weighty topics, I believe a lot of parenting is in the day-to-day minutia and that is what I plan to share most often.
- Jim Welch